Who has helped you through your parenting journey?
We are fortunate to live in a part of the country that has a structured program called Program for Early Parenthood Support (PEPS). It brings together parents with newborns that are close in age (1-3 months, typically). We were able to join a group when our oldest was born.
The support we received from the official PEPS program (which, at the time, ran 12 weeks), with a moderator, topics, sometimes guest/expert speakers, and families (including babies) meeting once a week in each other's home was invaluable. Following the program most of the parents in our group wanted to keep meeting. Just getting together, knowing we weren't alone, having others to bounce questions, challenges, and fears set the foundation for a strong community.
Our oldests are seniors in high school now with graduation just around the corner. It's bittersweet to realize how much time has gone by. The slowness of the early years, the angst of sending them off to school, puberty hitting, teen angst, and now coming into their own.
When we first started meeting, post program, everyone attended. We talked about the kids, because — for the most part — they were too young to know what we were talking about or in another room playing games. As they got older some of the kids connected, others didn't. The kids would come, but you knew they'd probably rather be somewhere else. 😊 When the kids reached middle school we started to let them decide if they wanted to join us or not. The connection of this group was more meaningful to us parents, because we wanted (needed?) to talk about the kids and struggles we faced, joys we were experiencing, or things that surprised us (my kid is capable of that?!).
None of us know what our kids will eventually end up doing, where they'll live, etc.. We know just because they are now "adults" we won't have a say, but hopefully modeled getting support to thrive in tough environments (not sure many environments tougher than parenting). We still very much want to stay connected with this community. We've been through so much together.
Parental support is what gets you through the tough times and lets you know you're not only, and you'll figure it out. It's those people — family, friends, doctors, teachers, coaches, mentors, that help us get through the journey together.
Who supports you and your family? Who do you support in return?
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