If like me, you spent a lot of your life defining yourself in relationship to other people, there may be a few things you need to give up doing before you can uncover what it is you like doing.
If you have always had a focus on keeping your parents, partner, family or friends happy. It is likely you will have defined yourself in relation to them. At some level you will have been rewarded for these behaviours and so they will have become reinforced. In other words, these other people have begun to define who you are.
You will be operating from a premise that goes as follows – if I meet everyone else's needs, then mine will be met too. The bad news is they won't but you will eventually become resentful.
Step one to meeting our own needs and uncovering our personal desires is giving up old roles and old stories. As we have said before, not everyone will be happy with you doing this.
Who do you need to stop being in order to find out who you might be?
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