We all fear failure, at least to some degree. Whether it's fear of embarrassment, or confirming a negative doubt or flaw we think about ourselves, we'll often go to great lengths to avoid it.
I've thought of that in my early days of parenting, wanting to be 'perfect' or as close to perfect as was possible and being terrified of 'failing.' It required me to open my mind by listening to our parents further along in their journey, my own parents, and allowing myself to pivot from fear of failure to awareness to the person I wanted to be (and how I'd show up for myself, spouse, and boys), and the experiences I wanted to have as a parent. I could 'fail' or make mistakes any time (we're human), but being aware forced me to be intentional, which helped me in what actions, words, and engagements looked like — I didn't want you to have any regrets parenting my kids.
Now my oldest is figuring out his path in life post high school. I shared him a wise saying I heard, "don't fear failure, be terrified of regret." I don't want him to take the easy route because the other is hard, scary, or he might fail. I shared he should want to be challenged (because easy is boring), and if he tries and it doesn't work out, he won't regret it, but if he never tries he likely will.
Parenting and life can be scary at times. Wanting to do and be your best all the time an admirable goal. Letting intention (how, when, and where you want to show up for yourself and others) be your guide doesn't mean you won't make mistakes, it just means you'll minimize regrets you experience in life.
What fear did you face and overcome to avoid regret?
I'll be off again spending time with family during Spring Break and will be back later in the month.
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